So early on in our pregnancy we had this goal of having our to do list finished by FULL TERM (37 weeks). I turned 37 weeks this Saturday and so I wanted to see if we had reached our goal and if not how close we were to reaching said goal. Not only did we want to have our to-do list done by this time just in case our baby came early, but also want to be able to relax and put my feet up towards the end of pregnancy as well.
Moment of truth…..WOMP WOMP. We still have items on our to do list after our set goal BUT those items are really small items and in terms of to do items of being ready for the baby we have hit that goal and were completely SUCCESSFUL! If I were to have this baby at this very moment I would be at peace with what we accomplished during these last 37 weeks and content with where the to do list is at.
We also found that as we completed one task another one got put on the to do list so this list was ever evolving. Case in point once we got our carseat installed this weekend we had a couple to do list items to accomplish that we didn’t think of prior to our safety class/carseat installment appointment (putting an ID sticker on our carseat in case of emergency, get all projectiles out of car, get a cargo net for car to strap down large items like strollers, mail in our registration card for our carseat to get info on any recalls for our carseat). I tell you the list for baby prepping is out of control and I would have never imagined it would be this much work to get ready for a baby! [something no books or movies show that is fo’ sho’]
So here are the items that we need to finish:
Added to the list:
-Buy a baby book [so indecisive on this or if I should do a photobook of first year or both]
-Get a fan
-Make maternity photo/letters photobook [prep book of first 37 weeks]
-Pick out favorite birth announcements
Overall not a bad list! Only 10(ish) things left on the list of what I felt like was a million one things to do! I feel pretty happy and content with where we are at and most important we are just ready to become parents and meet our little baby. We are ready for the next chapter and I feel like that is most important on the to do list. The cliche is right about needing 9 months to feel ready so that not only can the baby develop and grow, but also us as a couple grow and develop into a family. We are ready baby so whenever you feel good and ready to join our family we welcome you with open arms!
[not to leave ANYONE in suspense the baby is still in my belly. no birth story here]
So I am starting to have my baby appointments more regularly [once a week] and what a difference when talking with the doctors a couple weeks can make at this stage of the game!
Last time I was there [right before Superbowl] I was having a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions and pressure and some discomfort for about 2 weeks. They stated that it was a little bit early to be having them as much as I was and so they told me to drink 2 glasses of water and lay on my side when they start to persist more frequently. They stated that I was making some progress, but wanted to make sure it didn’t go into full blown labor. So I had my task and for the past 2 weeks I have been diligently making sure that I take this task seriously even if it means I need to stop whatever I am doing to lay on the couch [so very hard for me!]
This time around the doctor stated well you did your job too well these last two weeks as the baby has progressed BACKWARDS and has found a great spot a lot further north than 2 weeks ago. Our baby is very comfortable and we went to making some progress lets slow it down to negative zero progress lets speed things up! She said if the baby stays like this then I will be having the baby after the 40 week point.
Seriously my mind was spinning at the end of that doctor’s appointment.
So I have a task of moving more, not stopping Braxton Hicks and actually encourage them to progress and do whatever it takes to get the baby to move back in the southward direction. I know this time was coming, but I have been trying to make sure this baby is safe inside my belly that it seems counter intuitive to be trying to give our baby the eviction notice. IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING PEOPLE?!!!?? It seems just so strange to me that I am at the end of this pregnancy journey very soon. I know the 40 week finish line was creeping up, but to hear my doctor say that it would be great to have this baby come at any point now was just plain….SURREAL. CRAZY SURREAL.
So get this baby uncomfortable and move southward is my new mission and lets hope this baby cooperates and the next doctor’s appointment shows some sign of success. [the baby is already upset with me as it made me toss and turn all night long with a very long day ahead of me for work…sorry baby doctor’s orders!]
On a side note I had my first “I feel like a mommy failure..” moment at the doctor’s appointment yesterday. I failed my Group B test and although I myself had no control over this test [a test I could not study for one bit] it still gave me this feeling of failing my baby somehow. It was really tough because logically I knew that it just meant I needed to get an antibiotic prior to the birth of our baby, but emotionally I just felt deflated as a mom and my first “mistake” as a mom. I was flying high when I passed my glucose test and so to have the opposite reaction to a negative result on a test is only natural, but it still made me feel bad. It is so hard to describe and I am doing better since the initial results, but I am sure this is only the beginning of feeling a failure at mommyhood when it is completely out of my control. This the beginning of mommy guilt??!! [I turned to Pinkberry TWICE yesterday to make myself feel better. Probably need to find a new, better and healthier outlet for mommy guilt though in the future though…]
Moral of the Story: I need to better prepare myself for doctor visits from here on out as they aren’t the usual check belly, baby’s heartbeat and be on my merry way anymore.
I have been saying this quote "a baby changes everything…" quite a bit and thinking of those sappy commercials all pregnancy long and it is so true it just blows my mind [and the baby isn’t even here yet!]
I normally make a semi big deal about Valentine’s Day. Not because of the hallmark get me a present part, but it is just a nice excuse to remember to connect and to make time for us even with our busy lives. It is also our engagement anniversary and so it adds more of an element of a moment special between us beyond roses and pink hearts. We made a commitment to each other 4 years ago to be there for all future valentine’s days together and still be just as in love [if not even more].
Although I realize that Valentine’s Day is a hallmark holiday and that we should show each other how much we love each other outside of this day [which we do] there has always been something about Valentine’s Day that makes my heart flutter. It isn’t about the chocolates [non pregnant me dislikes chocolate], or roses [ridiculous to spend overbudget on something that will die in a few days], or even expensive meals. It is about taking a second out of our busy days and remembering some of our firsts together and remembering all the moments that make us love each other more each day. Our first valentine’s day I made a HUGE deal out of and on a poor college girl budget sent us to Vermont where we fell in love with each other and the place [if you ever get a chance to go to Manchester, VT it is so lovely]. We then had some less extravagant Valentine’s Days as we were in two different states—but we still found time to dress up and get fancy for a dinner out. In 2007 we had one of our most romantic valentine’s dates at the Melting Pot where we did the 15 course meal they offer and spent hours talking about our future together. then in 2008 I had the best valentine’s day ever that ended with an amazing weekend away to Vermont [back to the place we fell in love]. I have spent many Valentine’s Day trying to be creative, crafty and normally put in a surprise or two into our day.
This year though will be slightly different…
We are on a bit of a tighter budget this year/month as it is right before the baby is coming and every cent has been going towards getting ready for Baby R. We have done plenty of date nights—but really trying to hold back on slurges. This year a simple card next to the husband’s keys replaces the extravagant over the top surprises I normally try to do. This year I spent a few minutes of my day writing in our baby’s journal about Valentine’s Day and finding love in their lives. This year a quiet dinner at home will replace the getting fancy and putting heels on kinda date we normally do [I can barely get UGGs on at this point]. This year we will be heading into Boston, not to eat an extravagant meal in the North End but to get a quick bite to eat and then we are off to a 3 hour parenting class. This year we will be spending Valentine’s weekend getting ready for the baby…our baby.
And I wouldn’t change this Valentine’s day for anything in the entire world [even red velvet cake or chocolate].
Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone! Whether you celebrate this day or not I hope you find a moment to share with the one you love…
Photo via: Carla Ten Eyck Photography
I was over my BFFs house sometime earlier this year and saw on her fridge a baby to do list. I asked her about it and she said something along the lines of “oh with all the baby items to get done it is nice to stay organized.” My BFF probably didn’t want to scare me with going on about what she all had to do [and I probably wouldn’t have believed her anyways! haha!] I was like that is so great, but left the conversation thinking to myself—what is there really to get done before a baby gets here? Make a registry, get a nursery together and voila ready for baby! Oh my naive self how I laugh at you nowadays. So I skipped along my merry way and was for the most part oblivious to what this baby to-do list would entail a few months later.
So I am not completely sure what was on her to-do list, but here is what is/was on my to-do list since about 3 months into the pregnancy [we waited until about 12 weeks to make any sort of to-do list our of fear and wanting to embrace pregnancy a little bit before the craze began]. This isn’t to scare any potential moms out there, but more advice to get ready to have a never ending to do list once you find out you are pregnant. I thought to-do lists didn’t start until after the baby and boy was I shell shocked when I started to realize how much had to get done!
My Baby To-Do List! [Not all our mandatory or needed—it was just what is on our list to get done]
Phew! There is probably more that I am forgetting, but these are the items that we have been slowly getting done. Any mommas out there add anything else to my to-do list?
We wanted to get most of these items done before Christmas because our weekends are booked all the way until February. By February I will not want to do most of what is on this list so I am happy to say we are about 85% done with what we can accomplish now [have to wait for some of these items for after the showers]. Writing it all down seems daunting, but we tried to get at least 1 or 2 items done each week and it really has been working for us. Folders and organization has helped! Plus when it is your baby you are happy to fill out ANOTHER form or make that extra trip to the post office for stamps.
photo via: fingersonthefridge